Tag: relationship
These are very personal questions: What is spiritual to you? When and where do you feel spiritual? How do these spiritual feelings get blocked or expanded?
We can carry these questions throughout our lives. Spiritual practice aims to refine and deepen our understanding of them.
I will focus on three specific spiritual practices: psychological relationships, meditation, and psychedelic plant medicines, including cannabis.
Spiritual practice is about psychological relationships because if our spiritual practice doesn’t improve our relationships with others, what’s the point?
The practice of psychological relationships with others and with one’s inner life is a personal experience with spiritual meaning. This involves experiences of vulnerability, hurt, and confusion that teach us the depth of human love and kindness.
Spiritual practice is not only personal but also universal and objective. We need to look at our minds as they are, our human instincts as they are, and our relationship with the natural world. We are born, go through all the developmental stages, and then die. Life is both precious and painful. We cannot change most of life, but we can learn to connect with it gracefully, little by little.
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Emotional Intelligence Coupled with Thinking
We can develop intelligent emotionality or feeling just as we can develop intelligent thinking. Emotions range from the most ecstatic love and appreciation to the most negative and painful. They are as significant to our inner nature as water is to our outer nature. When our inner water/emotion dries up or freezes over, our spirit…
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Self Deception and the Pathological Liar
How does lying to oneself or another work? Usually, lying starts as a coping strategy. It can start at a young age to avoid a range of problems from avoiding abuse to taking out the garbage. In adolescence it is a way to get some privacy and break away from parental control. Later in life…
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Do I Need Therapy?
Instead of asking your self, “Do I need therapy?”, first ask your self, “Would I like some help with my confusion?”, “Would I like support with feeling over whelmed?”, “Would I like to understand relationships better?”, and so on. Basically, “What would I like a little help with?” These sorts of questions help us…
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Seeking Therapy, A Place to Start
Psychological tests on line can be a good place to start when seeking help with therapy. Sometimes these tests help us to become aware of our experiences throughout the day. Many times we are not even aware of the difficulty we are having because we have become numb or assumed “that’s just the way it…
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Marriage Therapy, “The Argument with Ourself”
Couples therapy usually begins with a few long standing arguments that are draining the life out of the relationship as well as each individual. One person may be aware of the problem and the other may not. One person or both may be angry about the state of affairs. There may be raging arguments, smoldering…
