Tag: Marriage
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How to Care for a Blended Family, 5 Areas of Focus
Blending families is a courageous act of love and intelligence because at some point the kids need the next chapter to begin and so do Mom and Dad. There are 5 areas that need attention for the transition to go easier. Every family has their specific dynamics that can be worked with as long as…
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Growing a Marriage: Deepening the Emotional Conversation, part 2
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi In this article we will look at how to work with the negativity that arises within us through conversations with our partner in marriage. In the previous post, part…
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How to Grow a Marriage: Deepening the Emotional Conversation, part 1
If there is one thing a couple can do to grow a richer marriage it would be to deepen the emotional conversations. It takes some simple learning, a little courage and a hell of a lot of curiosity. The art of emotional conversation and the art of making love are very similar. The end…
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How to Rebuild Trust in Marriage: Emotional Honesty
How to rebuild trust in a marriage requires an emotional honesty that can be learned. Trust is foundational for a human beings’ development and happiness from birth through adulthood. Therefore, the opportunity to work with trust issues is profound for the growth of individuals as well as the relationship. Healing a breach of trust is…
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Emotional Intelligence Coupled with Thinking
We can develop intelligent emotionality or feeling just as we can develop intelligent thinking. Emotions range from the most ecstatic love and appreciation to the most negative and painful. They are as significant to our inner nature as water is to our outer nature. When our inner water/emotion dries up or freezes over, our spirit…
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Parents, Children, and Autism Therapy
Often, the most over looked and yet the most essential work is helping parents cope with an autistic child. Many times parents lose sight of how to care for themselves, their marriage and other children in the family because it can feel selfish or not as important. I am not saying that something is being…
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Self Deception and the Pathological Liar
How does lying to oneself or another work? Usually, lying starts as a coping strategy. It can start at a young age to avoid a range of problems from avoiding abuse to taking out the garbage. In adolescence it is a way to get some privacy and break away from parental control. Later in life…
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The Objectives of Marriage and Family Counseling
Marriage and Family Counseling for Satisfying Relationships The primary objective of marriage and family counseling is to improve relationships. There is a method to having satisfying relationships. It is not just a free for all. There are particular skills and guidelines just as there are skills and guidelines for driving a car. You don’t get to…
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Trust Issues in Marriage, Simplified
Most of the arguments and distancing that happen in couples’ relationships will have something to do with trust. It could be trusting the fidelity of the other, trust with money and children, or trust wounds that began in childhood that are getting played out in the marriage. As a marriage and family therapist, I look…
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Relationships and the Marriage and Family Therapist
The Role of a Marriage and Family Therapist The focus of a marriage and family therapist or MFT in family counseling, couples counseling, or individual work is on relationship. It is the relationship one has with others and the relationship one has with the inner life of thoughts, feelings, sensations, intuitions, dreams, visions, fantasies and…
