Tag: parenting
These are very personal questions: What is spiritual to you? When and where do you feel spiritual? How do these spiritual feelings get blocked or expanded?
We can carry these questions throughout our lives. Spiritual practice aims to refine and deepen our understanding of them.
I will focus on three specific spiritual practices: psychological relationships, meditation, and psychedelic plant medicines, including cannabis.
Spiritual practice is about psychological relationships because if our spiritual practice doesn’t improve our relationships with others, what’s the point?
The practice of psychological relationships with others and with one’s inner life is a personal experience with spiritual meaning. This involves experiences of vulnerability, hurt, and confusion that teach us the depth of human love and kindness.
Spiritual practice is not only personal but also universal and objective. We need to look at our minds as they are, our human instincts as they are, and our relationship with the natural world. We are born, go through all the developmental stages, and then die. Life is both precious and painful. We cannot change most of life, but we can learn to connect with it gracefully, little by little.
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How to Care for a Blended Family, 5 Areas of Focus
Blending families is a courageous act of love and intelligence because at some point the kids need the next chapter to begin and so do Mom and Dad. There are 5 areas that need attention for the transition to go easier. Every family has their specific dynamics that can be worked with as long as…
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Helicopter Parents, Perfect Parents
As parents, we are in a vulnerable situation. How do we raise our children in this modern world? How do we give them what they need so they will be prepared for all the complexities of adult life? (relationships, money, emotions, how to feel and how to think, how to parent, how to…..) What is…
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Relationship Advice My Ego Does Not Want to Hear
In the previous post I said, “The power of a confused ego is underestimated.” This confusion can harm our relationships or serve as a doorway into deeper, richer, more intimate relationships. In that article I was showing how the ego can mistakingly distort our view of other people, spiritual practices or life it- self. This…
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Parents, Children, and Autism Therapy
Often, the most over looked and yet the most essential work is helping parents cope with an autistic child. Many times parents lose sight of how to care for themselves, their marriage and other children in the family because it can feel selfish or not as important. I am not saying that something is being…
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Parenting a Child with Depression, 9 of the Symptoms
Parenting a Child With Depression Is my child depressed? There is probably some amount of depression if a parent even asks this question. The next question is how to determine the best way to get some relief for your child. This does not necessarily mean antidepressants. It could be changing school environment, a different style…
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Therapy for Parents (How to be there for your kids)
Parenting is more complex than we think. We need to know how to parent each child a little differently. We also need to know how to parent each child in each developmental stage a little differently. Parenting a five year old is very different than parenting a teenager, parenting a quiet introverted child is different…
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Self Deception and the Pathological Liar
How does lying to oneself or another work? Usually, lying starts as a coping strategy. It can start at a young age to avoid a range of problems from avoiding abuse to taking out the garbage. In adolescence it is a way to get some privacy and break away from parental control. Later in life…
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Mother and Daughter Counseling, Love and Differentiation
A mother needs enough distance from her to daughter to see what she needs as an individual and enough emotional connection that her daughter feels seen and heard. Then the daughter can mature in her own unique way and the mother feels more satisfied with her role as a mother. This is the purpose of mother…
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Men and Mental Health- Podcast
Men and Mental Health Here is a podcast I did with the guys from mancertified.com. This is a podcast concerning depression, a man’s resistance to psychotherapy, marriage, parenting and mental health in our culture today. http://www.mancertified.com/mancertified-episode-10-steve-lee-men-mental-health/ Men and Mental Health-Podcast
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Marriage Counseling With One Person
Marriage counseling with one person is focused on the marriage. The non-attending partner may not be ready or may never be ready. Someone in the marriage needs to begin. The emotional pain and confusion in the marriage is both personal and relational. What is my work? What is your work? And what is our work?…
