Category: Featured
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How to Grow a Marriage: Deepening the Emotional Conversation, part 1
If there is one thing a couple can do to grow a richer marriage it would be to deepen the emotional conversations. It takes some simple learning, a little courage and a hell of a lot of curiosity. The art of emotional conversation and the art of making love are very similar. The end…
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“Never Go to Bed Angry”, (Anger as a Doorway)
“Never go to bed angry” was derived from a bible verse: “let not the sun go down upon your wrath” Ephesians 4:26. Ideally, this is a very good suggestion, but what if you cannot do this? When in fact, you stay up most of the night angry and are angry for days. I feel angry…
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Helicopter Parents, Perfect Parents
As parents, we are in a vulnerable situation. How do we raise our children in this modern world? How do we give them what they need so they will be prepared for all the complexities of adult life? (relationships, money, emotions, how to feel and how to think, how to parent, how to…..) What is…
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Relationship Advice My Ego Does Not Want to Hear
In the previous post I said, “The power of a confused ego is underestimated.” This confusion can harm our relationships or serve as a doorway into deeper, richer, more intimate relationships. In that article I was showing how the ego can mistakingly distort our view of other people, spiritual practices or life it- self. This…
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Three Meditation Techniques for Therapy
There are hundreds, maybe thousands of meditation techniques, all with roughly the same intention: peacefulness, happiness, calmness, less pain, increased wisdom and compassion, and spiritual connection. There are seated meditations, walking meditations, standing meditations, and sleeping meditations. There are meditations that use the breath, a mantra, an image, a sound, fasting, psychedelic plants, isolation, and…
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Finding a Psychotherapist
Whether it is your first time to psychotherapy or you are looking to find another therapist, it is important to consider a few things. Yes, they need to be a licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist or licensed clinical social worker. But the main consideration is, do you like them as a person, do…
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Antidepressants vs Meditation: Healing the Symptom and Root Cause of Unhappiness
Antidepressants are the third most prescribed drug in the United States. That is a lot of unhappy people. The medicines help, otherwise there would not be such a demand. 60 Minutes ran an episode that showed 70% of antidepressant use is placebo: http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=7399362n. Whatever works! Now, meditation has been shown to reduce the same symptoms…
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Teen Challenges: Communication
Teen Challenges and communication is the topic of this post. As I said in the previous post, the permissive/discipline balance is the most difficult in parenting teen children. It is difficult for parents and it is difficult for teens. Teens need and want to learn about life on their own (permissive) and they also need…
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Dreams and Dreaming, Part one
Dreams are given as messages to balance and guide Dreams and dreaming have a relationship to us, whether we want a relationship or not. They range from the most terrifying to the most profound healing. Everyone dreams and most have a curiosity about them, but cannot understand their message. You may have heard the ancient…
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Marriage Therapy, Beyond my Parents and Culture
Learning and Unlearning, that is the question? Marriage therapy discovers how our parents and culture effected us. Cause and effect, they had parents and a culture too. We all had parents and grew up in various cultures, such as, urban, single parent, religious, money orientation, German heritage or Hispanic, etc. This is where we learned…
