Category: Marriage and Couples
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Arranged Marriage
In some cultures, an arranged marriage is the norm when it comes to choosing your life partner. These carefully planned unions leave little to no choice for the couple to be. So what are some of the reasons they never work out? We take a look at some of the disadvantages to these kinds of…
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How to Control Your Emotions in a Relationship
Relationships take a lot of mental and emotional work. When things go well, emotions run high, but when they go poorly, emotions can become negative and erratic. You might end up feeling emotionally drained after a while and even want to throw in the towel. Trying to find that crucial balance between the two polarities…
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How to Get Over a Toxic Relationship
Getting out of a toxic relationship isn’t easy, nor is getting over it. As with the end of any relationship, there is a grieving process involved. Grieving the loss of a relationship, even with a toxic person, looks a little different for everybody, and there is no time limit or “right” way to do it.…
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Couples Counseling Visits: What to Expect?
All of us deal with relationship problems at certain points in our lives. Even the functional couples can have escalating arguments, and, therefore, finding themselves in an impasse. A good conflict resolution might be provided by couples counseling. Not many people are willing to go to a relationship counselor. This is mostly because of their…
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Learning How to Overcome Jealousy and Avoid Bad Thoughts
Jealousy is an emotion that is complex and, therefore, pretty difficult to deal with. It is something that we all experience at different points in our lives and, for the most part, are able to cope with. However, there are certain situations that can cause us to not process our jealousy in a way that…
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Emotional Manipulation in a Relationship: How to Fix Those Broken Words
Many might have heard the term gaslighting come up in conversations or in social media posts you have recently read. This term is becoming more popularly used as a way to describe emotional manipulation in a relationship. This happens especially when it goes to the extent of one person leading the other to believe that they’re…
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: What Can It Change?
Various forms of couples therapy have been practiced over the decades, often focusing on specific relationship problems and trying to find the best resolutions for them. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a subform of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFCT allows couples to build more positive relationships through the development of the attachment bond. Actually,…
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Fear of Commitment in Marriage/Partnership and Moving toward Emotional Intimacy
Resolving the fear of commitment begins by better understanding what we are committing to. Sometimes we commit to or avoid committing to assumptions and expectations that we are not completely aware of within ourselves or with another. As we locate these subconscious assumptions and expectations, we can begin to free ourselves from them. Our over-controlling…
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Silent Treatment Abuse or Shunning, page 2
As I wrote in the previous post page 1: “Silent Treatment Abuse” is the ancient practice of shunning using modern terminology to describe how it appears in our present relationships. It can be most confusing and frustrating because it feels like there is nothing that can be done about it. Many people have experienced abandonment, helplessness…
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How to Love One’s Self and Working with the Fear of Loving
The act of loving one’s self feels right. It makes sense. It is simple, “love your self”. And, it is very complicated because there are parts of ourselves that we resist acknowledging, let alone loving. Loving one’s self is a continual process of uncovering smarter and kinder ways of relating to our self, to others…
