Category: Parenting and Family
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Fear of Abandonment
Everyone has some degree of fear of abandonment, some more, some less. It comes from our instinct for attachment. We need each other. It starts at birth, when we are one hundred percent dependent on another for physical and emotional survival. This attachment becomes the foundation for growth. Gradually, from this dependence, a…
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Todays Therapist | Raising a Teenager Infographic
Raising a teenager is confusing for everyone in the family, so, how as parents can we guide our children through this time of life? First, we have to learn of few new parenting skills, because parenting a teen is very different than parenting when the kids were young. What use to work when they were…
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Parenting Teens: Ten Basic Attitudes
Parenting teens, begins with a few basic principles that apply in almost all situations. 1. Be as patient as possible. Teens are beginning a new stage of life that is very unknown to them. Their arrogance is to cover up vulnerability and lack of understanding. 2. Criticizing their mistakes makes it worse. They feel bad…
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Family Therapist: We are in this together, page one
Family Therapist A family therapist helps with the confusion and hurt as families move through the natural changes in life. The family therapist asks, “What is this problem trying to teach us?” Everyone has something to learn in family therapy, even the therapist. The fluctuations of emotional intimacy and emotional distance are always there, but…
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Emotional Education: So Easy
Here is a video on emotional education I think everyone should watch, https://vimeo.com/42382486, or upper right corner on my home page. Emotional intelligence is easy, let these children tell you how easy it is. My friend Mark Collin has developed this program for schools here in Northern California and is now becoming national. “Dovetail Learning’s…
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Teen Challenges: Communication
Teen Challenges and communication is the topic of this post. As I said in the previous post, the permissive/discipline balance is the most difficult in parenting teen children. It is difficult for parents and it is difficult for teens. Teens need and want to learn about life on their own (permissive) and they also need…
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Parenting: Teens
I have seen many teens and their families over the years. Parenting teens begins with a few basic principals that apply in almost all situations. After that, each has their own particular character, such as, too many substances, too much dangerous behavior, absent parents, divorce, adoption, learning disabilities, etc. Teens are beginning a new stage…
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Parenting: Outer Child and Inner Child; Page 2: The Attitude
Parenting the inner child of the parent, provides empathy and understanding to the outer child. The inner child of the adult is very similar to parenting the outer child, our sons and daughters. For example, we listen to our children for what they need. As we listen carefully to their voice, body language and emotions,…
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Parenting: Outer Child and Inner Child
Parenting: Outer Child and Inner Child Listening to your child is one of the most important things you can do. Listening to their, “ga, oo, ba, ba” as babies. And listening to your teen say, “You’re so stupid, could I borrow twenty bucks?” Parenting is how you listen and then how you respond. As you…
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Therapist: Psychotherapist
Soulfulness A therapist can be a mid-wife to the soul. As families and culture get more out of balance, there is a loss of soul. The soul, for all practical purposes is the essence. Sometimes it is easier to know the soul when it is gone, the death of an animal or person. The essence…
